She has a great personality…
2008 July 13
Today I broke down in tears in the middle of JCPenney.
I was shopping for an outfit to wear to a friend’s wedding at the end of the month. I pulled several dresses in the size I thought I was wearing. Nope… I’ve gain enough weight that I now am in a dress TWO sizes bigger.
It was embarrassing, depressing and demoralizing. I think I’ll send myself to bed early… without any supper.
Shit!
TARa! i can relate hon. here’s my shoulder. cry away or whatever you want. but you have a choice to make. to wallow or to do something about it. i’m trying to do something about it now. i completely gave up the choc candy/bar habit these last two months. eating lighter/less meals. i want to succeed at this. join me. we can encourage each other.
and come here you. **big hug** beany bear
[Tara R.] Beany… I knew I could count on you. I’m going to start crying again. I do have to do something and do it now. It will be easier with a friend, Thanks!
I totally know how that feels. It sucks hairy monkey balls. I’m sorry.
[Tara R.] G.M… Big hairy monkey balls…
TARa! are you going to cry again because you are still upset or because of what i said? i am proud of myself for giving up the choc candy bar habit. i never thought i could do this. in the past two months, i have had choc candy rare, just small amounts and only a couple times. if you want to do something bad enough girl, you can do it. right here with you, you bet. drop and give me twenty. beany
[Tara R.] Beany… cuz you were so supportive! Ma’am, yes ma’am!
I know how you feel, here’s a hug! ((((( )))))
I am substituting my candy bar/chocolate addiction with sugar free low cal popsicles…plus starting my 10 minute solutions fat-blasting dance mix. If I can’t give myself 10 minutes a day then i’m going to continue to be depressed ya know?!
Muffin-top begone…or at least a few pounds.
Hang in there sweetie!
[Tara R.] Mom… I need to make some serious changes and the best time to start is now. I can do 10 minutes too.
TARa! supportive, like a bra! haha.
awh, i loved how you said, “ma’am, yes ma’am.” you took me back to being in basic training when i was in the Air Force getting yelled at by the drill instructor. so glad i went in
you can do this, girl! have faith. woo hoot for TARa (and me)! we will succeed! we will. got it? we will.
nighty night friend, beany bear
[Tara R.] Beany… we can do this together… whoot! G’night friend!
You can work on getting lighter if you want to – but you’re still the same person you always were. And THAT’S what’s important.
[Tara R.] lceel… I know that I haven’t changed on the inside, but having that demonstration of having so much more outsides was a very rude awakening.
Aw, hugs to you, Honey! I know just how you feel!
[Tara R.] Stacey… thanks, this may just been the push I needed to really do change my habits.
T.. Don’t cry…Dress shopping can be the worst.. and it is horrible how something like dress shopping can make us send ourselves to bed without dinner.. and on top of that make us feel really bad about ourselves..
Sending big hugs to you.. xoxox
[Tara R.] Kim… I can’t believe I actually cried… it was just so unexpected, the whole bigger size thing. But, this is something that I can do something about, and will.
Oh sweetie. I’m so sorry. This is precisely why I hate shopping for clothes.
I hope you find something fabulous to wear to your friends wedding that makes you feel like a million bucks.
[Tara R.] Sandy… the way I felt at the time burlap and ashes would be appropriate. I still have time to find something nice, maybe even get into a one size different, instead of two.
Keep your chin up. I fell off of the diet wagon and broke both ankles. I get the casts off this week and will resume the “get back into shape” routine. What shape that will be remains to be seen.
[Tara R.] Nuke… it’s not the end of the world, I was just so shocked. I have to get into my own ‘get back into shape’ routine.
See what I mean? My assigned temporary avatar on your site is a slice of pizza!
[Tara R.] Nuke… sorry ’bout that.
Aw, don’t beat yourself up.
Just make small changes…eat fruit instead of chocolate, take the stairs, park at the back of the lot…….2 sizes isn’t a huge thing. I was a huge thing! LOL
xoxo
[Tara R.] Cyndy… I’ve been watching your count down… you’ve done fabulous things! Thanks for the support.
I told you that you could come sit on the floor with me if you brought your own Kleenex! But seeing how you are so sad, I’ll share. And I think if you are in a dress two sizes bigger, that means you can buy two dresses. At least that’s how my math works.
[Tara R.] Dingo… aren’t you just the sweetest thing?! Thanks for your support.
Oops! Sorry about the funky italics! You can go ahead and fix that if you want.
[Tara R.] Dingo… done!
Oh chickadee, I’m SO SORRY. That blows in a big and major way. I totally identify with the dressing-room depression…I’ve been there too many times. I wish I could get my hands on the person who decided to make the clothes smaller while the numbers stay the same. Bastages!!!
[Tara R.] Ms H… yeah, the Bastages! Now you know why I was so interested in what you posted about the other day. I’ve got to whip this b’otch into shape.
If it makes you feel any better, my stomach is bulging…I’m sure you’ll find something great that will be flattering…
[Tara R.] Chris… I’m afraid my muffin top has morphed into a bundt cake.
Welcome to my world. Many hugs.
[Tara R.] Danielle… thanks, I really needed that. mwah!
I’m sorry. I know how it is. I consider childbirth easier than trying on clothes.
[Tara R.] Meg… I couldn’t have said that better.
I feel for you, I really do. And I think JC Penney is an Evil Store, because even though I LOVE the kids clothes, every time I shop for myself there-usually bras-I end up leaving in tears, too.
I forgive you. Should I change my name to “Supreme-boy” or “Deep-dish Man”? Ooh, how about “The Pepperoni Avenger”? “Extra Cheese” just doesn’t have that Superhero punch.
[Tara R.] Nuke… I like ‘Supreme-boy,’ but you need a sidekick, maybe the ‘Garlic-dipper.’
I feel ya, it sucks gaining weight and it sucks even more trying to lose it, I know I’m currently trying to lose it but you do have a great personality and people love you no matter what size you are. Hugs!
[Tara R.] Allie… I tell Hubs it just means more of me to love.
Sizes REALLY don’t matter. For instance right now I am wearing a 14 or 16 at Layne Bryant, 18 pants from Eddie Baurer.. 16 from Dillards, 16 from Target and a 2 from Chicos
..love Chicos. Just because JC Penney’s is 2 sizes bigger doesn’t mean you gained a million pounds..you gained some inches. What better inspiration than to turn things back the other direction. The past is the past..moving forward you can make better choices. Starting RIGHTNOW.
No biggie..really…
[Tara R.] MP… I love Chicos too, why can’t more stores use that sizing chart. The whole size thing is just bizarre. I still wear 12s in all my sports wear and size 12 jeans are even a little loose. I HATE JCPenney.
Ms. T: Just remember that it’s who you are that matters, not the size off the rack! Sending you cyberhugs. My sister, who works in retail, says that those off-the-rack sizes don’t mean anything anyway. You can try on one outfit at JC Penney’s and find another one at Macy’s in the same size the fits, and vice-versa. Hang in there, gal. Can’t wait to see what your Blogaversary is all about!
[Tara R.] Melissa B… I tried to find something else in other stores, but not only do women’s sizes suck, it’s as if all the clothing designers are playing this enormous trick on us. Styles today are horrible, some of the ugliest stuff I’ve ever seen. Big doings here on Wednesday. I got some fun questions.
I agree with Melissa B., each clothing line gets to size how freaky they want to be with their measurements. Nuts. ***hugs*** I really do hope you feel better! Much love!
[Tara R.] Ashley… thanks, darlin’. I’m being proactive and hope to shed a few before the wedding. I have about two weeks to make it happen. We’ll see how it goes.
I can sure relate…saw a photo of me this weekend with the kids and I burst out crying…I am struggling too…hang in there…sending you lots of best wishes and positive vibes.
[Tara R.] Laura… I have avoided getting photos taken for years. Last Christmas at the in-laws I was almost in tears because everyone kept wanting me to get into pictures. I do not like seeing myself in photos either.
So, did you buy two dresses like I said? That’s really the first step in feeling better.
[Tara R.] Dingo… haha! I actually did! And, I need new shoes too…. maybe some jewelry.
tara r.: Don’t be so hard on yourself! Think of all the wonderful things in your life, and you’ll snap right out of it! I’ve always had a hard time looking at photos of myself–I think it comes with the territory!
[Tara R.] Veggie… thanks! I am not so far along that making a difference will be hard. I just have to be dedicated to making some changes and sticking with it. I don’t think I will ever like having my picture taken though.
I am STILL trying to lose my Katrina weight. And but for gallbladder surgery, I’d have baby weight to lose too. I sooooo know your pain. Sorry, boo
[Tara R.] Nola… thanks darlin! Right now I would love to be at my baby weight, it would be less than I weigh now. Humpf!
hi TARa! i wrote an encouraging blog post for ya, for me, for anybody. hope today was better for you about this. we will succeed
beany
[Tara R.] Beany… thanks sweetie… I’ve been making plans to do something about my state of unhappy weight. It was better and it will be easy knowing I have friends along to help me.
Oh sweetie! I’m so sorry! I feel you and I think every woman’s been there! I broke down not too long ago for different reasons, but they were still self esteem related. I hope you’re better soon and know that we all love you no matter what!
[Tara R.] Kim… actually, I’m going to include that in my Friday Blessings post. Everyone has been so great!
As soon as jeans go back to being high waisted, I’ll go up THREE sizes! That does suck, but at least it will be easier then to keep my gut sucked in! I’m rooting for you, friend
[Tara R.] Half-Past… seriously, I’m hosed if that happens. I’m pulling for you too!
You are still loved
I am sure that you are just as cute as ever!
[Tara R.] J… aren’t you the sweetest thing! I’m freakin’ adorable!
Thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. I just wanted to say that I totally feel your pain on the gaining weight front. Been there done that! Have a great weekend!
[Tara R.] Country Girl… I really enjoyed reading what your blessings were this past week too. Hope you have a wonderful weekend.