Too much information
I read about this Web site in an old issue of Women’s Day magazine – True Mom Confessions. It’s a place where presumably moms can go to anonymously “confess” all sorts of transgressions and guilty feelings, bitch about their offspring or spouses, or just vent about anything.
Check it out… it’s a hoot. Some of the confessions are crazy, some are tragic and some, well (blush)… you’ll see.
But it got me thinking about who do I have, what friend do I trust enough, that I can tell her or him anything and not worry about how it sounds, and them still want to be my friend after I admit to all these terrible things.
I can talk to my husband about almost anything, but if I want to gripe about him there really isn’t anyone I would be comfortable opening up to about otherwise verboten topics. I don’t have sisters and I certainly can’t whine to my SILs about their brother.
Even here in the ether-world, there are some places I just won’t go… TMI. There are topics, and not just spouse related, that are just too personal to discuss or open up for debate. But, still … it would be nice to have a friend that I could confess anything to and know that secret would be safe.
How many of us have a person like that in our lives, someone who will listen to our deepest, darkest secrets, keep them deep and dark, give us fabulously sage advice, and still love us unconditionally?
I had an old blog on Xanga when my 4 yo was a baby. I let go everything there – all of it. The worst fights, the best days. It almost ruined my marriage. He was livid that I’d make our personal life public.
So…I stopped. And ever since then, my blogs have been semi-private. Now, I’m slowly opening back up and soon it will be completely so. I deserve my cathartic journal with all the crap he puts me through.
I need to check out that site.
I am lucky enough to have my best friend of almost 30 years that I can tell anything too. She and I have been through it ALL. There are struggles that come with being able to share anything because we have NO sensors of what is over the line with sharing or expressing how we feel. It usually ends up ending in a fight about once every two years.. but we always reconnect and move forward because we are not really friends anymore, but family.
hi tara,
i never use words against a friend when she confides in me. i am super loyal and her secrets will always be safe with me.
i just vented something awful, lots of frustration and anger last night about my teens (the biggest on-going stressor of my life right now), to her and i feel safe knowing that she won’t judge me, she will just let me vent or share anything when i need to.
you can tell me anything you want tara. you are safe with me, too, if you want to be.
thanks for all the lifting up and praise and sweetness lately especially. i lurve it. you rock, beany bear
I can tell my mom just about anything. She is the person I generally want to talk to first when the s— hits the fan.
i talk to my mom, my sister, my hubby and my very best friend in the world…her name is anna. on my blog…there are just some places i choose not to venture…like, my bedroom and…now, in-laws!
xoxo
Thanks for the heads up… I will check out the website.
I am fortunate to be married to a man that will listen to everything.
I can;t imagine keeping things bottled in. I guess others do and the website was born.
Going to check it out.
When I need advice, I have either my sister or two gals who I have been friends with for over 20 years. It depends what kind of answer I want. My sister gives me “tough love” and brutally honest feedback. My two friends are a bit kinder but we don’t talk as frequently. ( one is out of town and the other, like me gets busy with her family )
It helps to have one or two people in your life that you know each other’s history and you trust. I am also trying to get out once a month for dinner with a friend for a girl’s night.
I’ll have to go check it out as soon as I can pry Ian off my legs. Something about not paying attention to him because I am blog-hopping. He didn’t come out and SAY it, but we all know that’s what he’s implying. Good grief…just trying to have a hobby for pete’s sake.
I am lucky enough to have a friend of over 20 years that I can tell anything to, and he to me. I definitely like that it’s a guy friend so we can give each other the other sex’s point of view. Of course, neither of us are your typical male or female so it’s still a bit skewed. But he’s my best friend, and we will cherish our friendship forever. (And, yes, there’s a whole lot that doesn’t get shared on a blog – nor should it!)
Blog Hoppin’,
Balancing Hops
TMC is great! I’m glad you found it!
Sometimes, there are things you’d like to say, but you shouldn’t say to ANYBODY! That’s where this site would come in handy. Thankfully, I tell my people everything, even if I shouldn’t!
I have had 3 close friends in my life. One was lost when I left for the Navy, one actually joined with me and we have just gone seperate ways, and my last went off her rocker. I posted about how upset I was with her on my blog. So right now, guess I need to get a BFF application ready. Seriously though, I wish I had some close like that because right now there are many things in my life I really need someone to talk to about.
It’s pretty common knowledge that we men don’t talk much.
When I do need to share something I talk with my wife.
For me, it’s my husband, even when I am bitching about him.
Blog hopping–HP
I DO I DO!
I have two, actually, and they are magnificent. There is nothing we haven’t shared, and I couldn’t live without it.
Thanks for hopping through….I still get all blushy and giggly when you stop by to say hi
I have two people that I can talk to openly about anything and everyting that I trust enough to open up too! One is hubby’s cousin and the other is a good friend from high school that I still keep in contact with!
It’s a blessing to have thier love and support even if I do end up venting about hubby to the cousin:) It’s great:)
I love that website. I just think it’s so interesting.
I, happily, believe I have several friends that I could tell my deepest secret to and they’d keep it to themselves and love me nonetheless. It helps that many of my friends have been in my life for DECADES!
I love, love, love that site. It’s great reading.
I have only had one really close friend my entire life…now, we have drifted apart as well….I moved….that was the pretty much the end…now, If I don’t blab to the internet…I just keep things to myself..things I don’t want to talk to my husband about.
Bloghopping
Dixie
This very subject has been on my mind. I’m missing that person in my life too, and I feel all pent up! I have had that person before, so I have faith that I’ll have her again, but there is always the wonder, “will I still be accepted?” I was hoping my blog could help to fill that need, but way too many family members read it, so that’s out. For now, I have my trusty journal and a few online friends that get snippets…maybe I’m testing the waters? Great post.
i’ve got two: JDawg and Stargirl. Both of them are my rocks, one more stable than the other!
As far as blogging…I’ve always been really brutally honest. I’m not good at keeping things in, and really, I just don’t want to. The only time it’s been a problem was in relation to a former friend, which ultimately lead to me moving my blog to the one you leave me comments on (that i LOVE).
I know all about that website!! I’ve been addicted to it for weeks now. I actually love the heated debate in the comments even better than I like the confessions themselves!!!
And thankfully I have both my sister to confess to as well as my bff Alicia. Both know my deepest darkest secrets and neither of them judge. Heaven.
I’ve never hear of that site, but I’m going to check it out! I have tons of confessions I’d love to spill, but I’d never in a million years on my blog
Thanks for sharing!
That True Confessions site is intriquing and usually a little depressing. I can tell my best friend and one of my sisters anything. My husband is pretty open minded too-but to be honest I don’t FULLY trust anyone. I think once you tell someone a deep dark secret-it’s out there and there is always the chance they will pass it on.